A mother and daughter · Online seminar for parents
Successful and close.
A quiet, private seminar for parents who want both: a child who does well, and a relationship that stays close. From a mother who raised her daughter through three decades in Asia, and the daughter who lived it.
Live on Zoom · Cameras optional · Never recorded · In English
Why a mother and daughter
See the result before you take the advice.
Most parenting advice comes from people you never see with their own children. Ara raised Maia through demanding international schools across Asia. Maia is now a successful adult who still comes to her mother first, with everything.
In this seminar you hear both sides: the decisions a mother made, and what they felt like to the child.
The research agrees. A review of 308 studies found that parenting which pairs warmth with clear standards goes hand in hand with stronger results at school. Pinquart, Educational Psychology Review, 2016
Ara
Three decades across Asia and the Middle East. Studied engineering, Asian Studies and meditation, and seven years of Japanese and Taiwanese tea culture. An entrepreneur who raised her daughter through competitive schools while keeping their relationship close.
Maia
Grew up across Asia in competitive schools, then went on to an Ivy League university. She knows academic pressure and high standards from the inside, and stayed close to her mother through all of it.
The seminar
Successful and Close
A child who succeeds and a relationship that stays close come from the same place: how parents speak and behave, and how children read what they see.
- Parents of children from early school years to university applications
- Families in international or competitive schools
- Parents who want high standards without distance
- Parents who prefer to listen privately before speaking to anyone
- Concrete principles you can use the same evening
- Words and tone for the moments that usually end in argument
- A view of your parenting from the child’s side
- A clear next step, if you want one
Agenda
Two evenings, one week apart.
How I did it
| 19:30 | Welcome, and how the evening works |
| 19:35 | The false choice between firmness and closeness |
| 19:50 | Success that is theirs, not everyone else’s |
| 20:05 | A word that holds · steady, clear and warm · joy |
| 20:30 | Your questions, including those sent in advance |
| 21:00 | Close |
What it was like
| 19:30 | Welcome back |
| 19:35 | How the week went at home: what worked, and what didn’t |
| 19:55 | Maia: how a parent’s words land with the child |
| 20:15 | Extra practice, with feedback from Ara |
| 20:30 | Your questions, answered from both sides |
| 21:00 | Close |
Part 2 is open to guests who have attended Part 1.
Times are approximate. Each part is 90 minutes: about an hour of teaching, then questions.
Privacy
No one needs to know you came.
Speaking about family outside the family is a private matter. The seminar is arranged so that you can listen, learn and ask without being seen or named.
How it works
Simple, and clear at every step.
- Reserve. Choose Part 1, or Parts 1 & 2, and pay by card.
- Receive your link. A confirmation email with your Zoom link, and a reminder the day before.
- Send a question, if you wish. Through the anonymous form in your confirmation.
- Join from home. Camera off is perfectly fine.
- Afterwards. A short note with what comes next: Part 2, Avela Notes, or a private conversation. No obligation.
Fees and reservation
Fees
| Also available | Fee | Details |
|---|---|---|
| Practice Session | ¥13,000 | A small group of 4–6 after selected seminars |
| Private follow-up | ¥32,000 | One 60-minute conversation with Ara or Maia, within a month of Part 2 |
| Private conversation | ¥47,000 | 60 minutes with Ara or Maia, about your own family. Book |
| Avela Notes | ¥3,900 a month | For seminar guests: a short daily message and voice note to keep what you learned in action. Cancel anytime. |
| Changes | Your seat may be moved to a later seminar at no charge. Seats are not refundable. |
|---|---|
| Refresher | As a courtesy, a seminar may be retaken once, free, within a year of your first, when there is space. |
| Payment | Card at reservation. Bitcoin is also accepted. |
| Full terms | Scope, terms and privacy |
Is this therapy or counselling?
No. Avela offers perspective from lived experience. We are not therapists, doctors or counsellors, and we do not diagnose or treat. If you or your child need clinical support, a licensed professional is the right person to see. Support lines.
Will anyone know that I attended?
No. Cameras are optional, you choose the name shown, and the list of guests is never shared. Seminars are never recorded.
How do I ask a question without being identified?
After reserving, you may send questions in advance through an anonymous form, or by private chat during the seminar. Questions are answered by topic, never by name.
In which language is the seminar held?
English, spoken at a calm pace. Private conversations may be held in English or with simultaneous interpretation into Korean.
What do I need to join?
A computer, tablet or phone with the free Zoom app. Your link arrives by email after reserving, with a reminder the day before.
May I attend Part 2 on its own?
Part 2 continues the work of Part 1, so it is reserved for guests who have attended Part 1. You may reserve Part 1 alone, or both parts together.
May my spouse join me?
Yes. Two seats may be reserved together: Part 1 for two is ¥25,000, and Parts 1 & 2 for two is ¥57,000.
What if my plans change?
Your seat may be moved to a later seminar at no charge. Seats are not refundable. As a courtesy, a seminar may be retaken once, free, within a year of your first, when there is space.
How may I pay?
By card when reserving. Bitcoin is also accepted.
Do you advise on university admissions?
We offer guidance on raising your child, including education and university choices. We do not offer shortcuts or guarantees.
When you are ready
Begin with one evening.
Listen privately, take what is useful, and decide your next step afterwards.